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This advice that I am about to give you will work very well in a situation where you see a particular girl you are interested in during your everyday activities.

About a month ago, this young woman started working at my office. She is young, very attractive, and has a smile that could melt any man. As you could imagine, she received immediate attention from all the guys at work.

Men flocked to her, hoping that they somehow convince her that they are worthy of hanging out with. It’s quite pathetic, actually, seeing these guys attempt to seduce a woman by hanging around her and annoying the hell out of her.

These guys that I am talking about are young, and though their seduction techniques may be somewhat the norm when guys look to seduce women, are very ineffective. Especially if there is a guy like me around who knows all the proper procedures. It’s sort of like a guy who knows how to body build properly watching other guys work out and finding little mistakes they make.

Every guy at work knows about my personal development business and have asked me many questions about ways to seduce women. Unfortunately for them, it seems as though they haven’t taken my advice and didn’t read my articles on ApproachAndSeduce.com.

If you are a regular visitor to my site, you will know that I have a girlfriend so I am not looking to seduce anyone. However, because I coach people in both relationships and dating, I think it is my responsibility to “test” out seduction techniques and then relay my results to you.

That said, when this girl joined our team, I introduced myself with a smile, wished her the best of luck, and then continued with my day. Meanwhile, the other guys were surrounding her, trying to be funny and charming. At one point this attractive young woman seemed very uncomfortable and annoyed. She knew what was up and would give me short little signals that she was (rolling her eyes and smiling when one of my male co-workers approached her).

One afternoon at lunch, I was sitting at a little coffee shop that is on the bottom floor of our office building, and wouldn’t you know, she asked if she could join me. We chatted for a while and then I mentioned my girlfriend.

“Oh, that’s why you’re not very social with the women at the office, eh?” She asked.

Interesting. She noticed that I didn’t give her the attention every other man gave her. See? I go on and on about keeping the mystery and not seeming too eager to impress a woman, and this is an excellent example of the opportunities that arise by following this advice.

I explained to her that at work I focus on work and apologized for appearing antisocial and snobby. She reassured me that I didn’t come across as a snob and that she was only wondering why I didn’t chat much.

Because my girlfriend is absolutely beautiful and treats me better than I could ever have wished, I would never test any seduction techniques on this girl that would get me in trouble (flirting). I also caught a few signals that she sent me that I know for sure read “God, I’d love to have sex with you.” I had to somehow redirect her attention elsewhere so I came up with a plan.

One of the guys at work, we’ll call him Joe, is a single guy who has a lot of trouble with women. He’s a good looking, smart, and very funny guy but when it comes to sealing the deal he is atrocious. It’s like watching a cat in water - very uncomfortable.

What I decided to do was talk to the kid and give some advice on how to peak this girl’s interest in him. So, that night, I called him and asked him to come over for a drink and to watch the hockey game.

When he arrived to my place, I told him exactly why I invited him and began asking questions about what he thought of the new girl at work (we’ll call her Jane). Immediately he asked me if she was inquiring about him. I had to somehow give my advice without hurting his feelings or confidence. After all, I think he was certain that he had made progress with her.

I explained to him that she hadn’t asked me about anyone from work, but offered my advice on how to spark her interest. He was game.

The first thing I told him was to stop chatting with her starting the next morning. My advice was to keep his interaction with Jane limited to a “Good Morning” and a smile. I broke down the importance of this and shared what I saw at the office as a third party observer.

What I saw was a pack of wolves surrounding helpless prey. I told him that she looked uncomfortable with all the attention and that she was obviously frustrated when men approached her at work.

If Joe was to succeed in seducing Jane, he had to separate himself from the pack as I did. I advised him to continue being kind and even helpful if the opportunity arose, but to never just go up and chat with her. Not without a purpose, anyway.

Joe asked me about eye contact and if that would be appropriate, and I responded with an enthusiastic YES! “Of course you should make eye contact, followed by a smile. You are looking to seduce this woman and sending little signals that she is still in his radar is important,” I answered. “Just don’t follow her like a damn puppy dog,” I continued.

After a nice little chat with Joe I referred him to my website, yet again. I convinced him to check out my articles on eye contact/body language and on how to seduce a woman before he went home. I was somewhat in doubt that he’d actually go home and read these articles and take my advice from that night, but as you’ll see, he followed my direction faithfully…

The next day, Joe came to work and greeted Jane with the simple hello and smile that I mentioned. He went on with his day without chatting with Jane at all. “Awesome,” I thought. Nothing transpired the first day, but I was confident that if he continued he would succeed.

The following day, Joe did the same. I kept my eye on both him and Jane to see if any eye contact or anything else occurred. Sure enough, Jane would look his way more and more as she realized he didn’t hound her, and smiles were exchanged back and forth.

Meanwhile, all the other guys continued to bother Jane. Some of them approached her with what seemed as a very bad comedy routine. Guys do anything to impress women, even if it makes them look like a clown.

That night, Joe called me. He told me that though she would look over and smile, nothing had happened yet. “Are you crazy?” I asked? “She’s sending you looks and smiling at you! What else do you want? Keep doing what I said and I promise good things will come. If nothing happens, I will buy you a PS3.”

The next day, didn’t have to go into the office until after lunch. I decided to go back to the cafeteria where Jane and I chatted for a quick lunch and to organize the notes I had taken at the meeting I attended that morning. Wouldn’t you know it, sitting in a table in the corner of the cafe was Joe and Jane, laughing and having a great time. “Thank God,” I thought. “Those PS3’s are pretty damn expensive.”

I left the cafe as soon as I spotted them, leaving Joe to work his magic. I was hoping he read and took the advice from my site seriously because actually seducing women takes a lot more than just ignoring them.

That night, Joe called and thanked me. Not only had Jane joined him for lunch, but she asked him to do lunch again the following day! Things looked great, and though he felt the need to thank me, I thanked him more for giving me material for my blog!

I am writing this blog very shortly after this whole episode, so I cannot tell you how things are going between the two of them. What I can tell you is that in only a couple of days, and with only a few suggestions, Joe is now having lunch with a beautiful, in demand woman.

Jesse Allen

I was at this café one afternoon last week and I witnessed something that I would like to share with all of you.

I was enjoying a vanilla cappuccino with my cousin, talking about this football pool we are both in something very interesting happened. Something that proves just how powerful being aware of your surroundings really can be.

This blog was a last minute decision for me. I never wanted to offer something that was redundant or a “dime a dozen.” After a little thought, I realized that if I were to focus enough, I could extract some pretty informative advice from my daily observations on what every day guys are doing wrong … especially when it comes to approaching or seducing women.

I am very excited about this! Not only do I get to analyze and critique the things people do around me, but these experiences are uniquely my own! Sure, similar occurrences may have happened to other people, and I understand that learning the fundamental rules will turn you into a player. But it is the little things that one does or doesn’t do that will promote them from a player to a master seducer.

Before I tell you what this guy did this afternoon, I want to get into just how important finesse is. Finesse is what separates a sundae from a sundae with a cherry on top…and sprinkles. Anyone can pick up. I think it’s the easiest thing to do once you know that you really want it. But finesse will change you from a guy who picks up to a guy who drives women absolutely crazy.

Remember Pat Riley? I forget which player it was but he told this superstar to throw one hundred balls from the free throw line. The player laughed saying it was a waste of time and that he could do it in his sleep. Riley, as clever a coach and as sarcastic a character that he is, responded with “Prove it.” Riley didn’t want his players to miss a “sure thing”, so he made them practice the fundamentals endlessly.

Riley knew that in order to coach a championship team, they had to play as a team. The fancy ball work and the spectacular jump shots were very rarely a factor in the overall score (that is unless Michael Jordan’s name is brought up). But the art of seducing a woman is not a team sport now is it?

The little things will seal the deal. I enjoy body building and the one thing I’ve learned over the years is that it’s the little things accelerate progress. Things like wearing a sweater to keep your muscles warm and blood flow healthy; drinking milk after a workout instead of an electrolyte replenishing beverage; doing cardio as soon as you wake up to increase metabolism and promote fat loss double than if you were to do it in the afternoon.

Do you want to become a man who can manipulate any situation or person around him, or a guy who’s goes with the flow and remains comfortable with average? If you’re still reading this then I’m guessing you’d rather be the man who gets things done.

Okay, back to the café. Didn’t this guy walk up to a table of three girls who were sitting next to ours! I was so excited. I could tell immediately by the look in his eye before he started talking to one of them. This guy was on a mission and God was I hoping he’d conquer.

I was waiting for something brilliant and worth using myself in one of my articles, but I was disappointed to say the least. What this guy did is what I preach against over and over. He walked up to the table, told the girl he was interested in that “she was cute” and placed a piece of paper on the table with his number on it. He told her that “if you think I’m cute as well, use this number,” and then he walked away.

Can any of you see what this guy did wrong? I have a girlfriend and have made the mistake of telling her she’s “cute” and let me tell you, it pissed her off. Never tell a woman that she’s “cute”. Cute is for teddy bears and babies, not women you want to take out on a date and eventually have sex with. They absolutely HATE being told they are cute and if this is the first compliment you give a woman, you’re toast.

Also, you guys must be aware of the guys who honk at girls and then speed off into the sunset, right? What the hell is the point? Why make your interest known only to run away? Same goes with handing a woman a number and expecting her to call you. Not only do women hate calling men, but they also are weary of men who don’t have the time to chat with them.

If you approach a woman, be prepared to talk to her. If you don’t know how, David Copeland and Ron Lewis of “How To Talk To Women” can help you out. Until you learn the gift of gab, don’t attempt approaching a woman. Even if she does call and sets up a date, you will be left panicking because you will not be able to escape conversation while you are on a date.

This guy showed a lot of balls walking up to a group of girls, or as I like to call it, “the circle of death.” This is one of the hardest things for any player to do, let alone someone who is not prepared to deal with them. What do you think those women talked about when he left? Let me tell you because my ears were glued their table for a half hour after he left.

When this fella left the café, one of this girl’s friends crumpled up the number and threw it on the floor. Immediate failure. Women’s friends have so much say when it comes to the guys their friend dates and when approaching a woman in a circle of death you had better prepare to not only charm her, but them as well.

Why is it important to charm all of her friends as well? Just think of it for a moment. Women are JEALOUS CREATURES! They don’t want one of their friends to be the only one who gets attention. They will start wondering why the guy was interested in just their friend instead of them and will begin sabotaging the situation by telling her that he is not worth it.

You know that old tactic of initially paying more attention to a girl’s friend to make her a bit jealous, right? Well, it works. Like I said before, women are often jealous when they’re not the center of attention and chatting with her friends is brilliant technique in having the girl you want seduce YOU!

The things I heard from this table after this guys’ approach were:

“The nerve.”

“He’s got balls.”

“He probably gives out numbers as often as he gives out business cards.”

That said, after listening to these girls for a while I got up and picked up the number off the floor. I looked at them and asked if I could have it. Immediately they were interested in why, and building interest and presence is what I talk about often.

They asked me why I would possibly want that guy’s number and I responded with “because I’m looking for a larger set of balls and wanted to ask him if I could borrow his.” Now that got them going. They absolutely loved it and invited us to sit with them. I have a girlfriend but my cousin didn’t, so I wasn’t looking for anything (probably one of the reasons these girls were absolutely crazy about me). I wanted to hook up my cousin!

As you can see, my well thought out action of picking up the number from the floor created ample opportunity to meet a group of women. I thought about what to do and what to say before doing anything, making me look smooth, funny, and confident. Even though I’m sure I could have gotten a number, I didn’t try. My girlfriend is far more beautiful than any of them and the whole purpose of my actions was to get my cousin a date. It worked and he will be going on a second date with one of them within the next few days.

Jesse Allen

What’s up?

Welcome to my blog.

As opposed to articles and tips that I published on my main website, approachandseduce.com, I will be writing personal experiences, observations, and comments on anything to do with seduction.

Being observant is very important. Looking at what people are doing, whether successful or not, will educate you and give you a better idea of what works and what doesn’t. Sure, I suggest hanging out and watching anyone who you’d consider as being a “player” because surrounding yourself with success will redoubtably rub onto you. Reading what people do wrong is also beneficial because knowing what NOT to do is also very important.

Through the run of a day I am watching everyone - especially those on dates or others who are approaching either a man or a woman. Studying human interaction and tendencies is what I do best, and this will be the place where I’ll publish everything I’ve seen.

Looking forward to sharing and know you’ll enjoy my future contributions.

Regards,

Jesse Allen
ApproachAndSeduce.com